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Gratitude, True Wealth, and The Total Eclipse of 2017

August 27, 2017 by Avi Kantor

I missed the Total Eclipse.

On August 21st, I was with our extended family at an annual family event on the outer banks of North Carolina. Where we were, even though the sun was 90% obscured by the moon, the changes in the environment were barely perceptible. Yes, it was “cool” and “awesome”, but it didn’t have much of an effect on our day.

However, we had guests at our home in Jackson who reported that the total eclipse was a “once in a lifetime experience”; one like no other. I pondered what they meant by this and surmised that it had something to do with becoming aware that life on Earth depends upon the energy from the Sun; that our very existence is fragile, and that we benefit from a rare combination of cosmic circumstances that sustain life as we know it. The total eclipse must have heightened that awareness.

I’m reminded of the late Carl Sagan’s “Pale Blue Dot” monologue, in which he describes his response to the visual images of the Earth sent from the Voyager 1 spacecraft as it passed Saturn in 1990. He called the Earth the “Pale Blue Dot” because it was so small and insignificant as seen from Voyager 1. Here’s an excerpt from Sagan’s monologue:

“Look again at that dot. That’s here. That’s home. That’s us. On it everyone you love, everyone you know, everyone you ever heard of, every human being who ever was, lived out their lives. The aggregate of our joy and suffering, thousands of confident religions, ideologies, and economic doctrines, every hunter and forager, every hero and coward, every creator and destroyer of civilization, every king and peasant, every young couple in love, every mother and father, hopeful child, inventor and explorer, every teacher of morals, every corrupt politician, every “superstar,” every “supreme leader,” every saint and sinner in the history of our species lived there-on a mote of dust suspended in a sunbeam.”

That’s what I suspect was on the minds of our house guests during and after the eclipse.

There’s a part of me that wishes I could have experienced the Total Eclipse in Jackson. Yet, I know in my heart that I was where I was supposed to be: with my family, building on our traditions, and creating stories that will sustain us and connect us over time. It’s our family’s True Wealth.

When we appreciate the opportunities we have to be with our family and friends, to engage in meaningful and fulfilling activities, and to contribute to the well-being of others and our community, our lives become richer. We experience True Wealth, not just numbers on financial statements or account balances.

Avi Kantor

Filed Under: True Wealth Tagged With: Family, Life Experiences, True Wealth

Cookout and Conversation

August 4, 2017 by Avi Kantor

On Sunday, July 23rd, we hosted an informal barbeque at the home of David Cedenhead in Jackson.

Cookout and Conversation
Cookout and Conversation

The Certior Group will continue to conduct regular social events and workshops.. Please contact our office for further details and please check this newsletter for announcements of future events.

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Gratitude and “Affluenza”

June 26, 2017 by Avi Kantor

While driving drunk in June of 2013, a Texas teenager Ethan Couch lost control of his pickup truck at high speed, killing four bystanders and severely injuring several passengers in his vehicle. Couch is the son of a very successful – many would say “wealthy” – businessman.

“A psychologist testified that 16-year-old Ethan Couch, charged in the deaths of four pedestrians while driving drunk, suffered from the condition in which children — generally from richer families — have a sense of entitlement, are irresponsible, and make excuses for poor behavior because parents have not set proper boundaries.” – USA Today, December 14, 2013.

The tragic case of Ethan Couch drew international headlines and scorn from nearly all circles because of the leniency of the ultimate sentence (10 years of probation) and the lack of an apology from the defendant. At the heart of that scorn was the perception that entitlement is a deep, chronic character flaw of wealthy children and young adults. The common term for this condition is “affluenza”, a term that suggests that the pattern of behavior is like an incurable disease specific to children of wealth.

More on Ethan Couch and Affluenza

My experience, however, and the experience of many of my colleagues is that entitlement can be counteracted with gratitude and that, over time, gratitude can rewire a young person’s brain and transform entitled children and young adults into grateful ones.

Empowered Wealth provides us with a wonderful tool, the Levels of Gratitude. A way we might use this tool to combat “entitlement” would be to begin with respect for ourselves and for others. Can we demonstrate to our children that we respect our health and well-being, our family and others, and our faith enough to say “no” to destructive behaviors? Can we stay true to this gratitude principle if and when our children falter or rebel? Can we set limits and hold our children accountable when they cross the line into entitlement and disregard for others?

We can give our children and others a gift that’s worth more than most of the “things” they think they may want in the moment. We can give them the gift of gratitude.

Please join us for one of our study group meetings or Empowered Wealth workshops where we teach the Levels of Gratitude.
Avi Kantor

Filed Under: True Wealth Tagged With: Family Culture, Gratitude, Life Experiences

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